a
kind of relationship where I know I trust him and he trust me. We don’t have to
always spend our times together talking to each other or meeting up often cause
we would one day spent the rest of our lives together when we’re married. I
want a kind of relationship where both of us are mentally not stable, retarded
to the point of weird in the public’s eyes or crack stupid jokes on each other
yet we are emotionally stable. No
insecurities, no overly jealousy overtaking us that we had to control each
other life. I want a relationship where I can live my life my own way, and he
lives his own. But when we come together, we still have that connection between
us. I don’t need the daily “I love you” or “I miss you” or a conversation to
keep it going. Instead, Either a good morning and good night text would do to
show that I am the one you think of first when you wake up and the person you
think last before you go to sleep. We don’t need to spent or let me put it,
waste money on luxury foods or going to places. I rather use our time together
relaxing in his or my house, watching dramas or movies. Or him teaching me a
game he likes to play and despite me being noob with games, I will be able to
join and play together with him. A relationship whereby one day we are best
friends, others we are enemies. Still, we end up loving each other strongly
than ever.
To me
‘boyfriend’ is a just a title that you are a person of the opposite sex that
I’m closely intimate with. I don’t need you to be a gentleman, opening the door,
paying the tabs, giving up your jacket for me, buying me gifts, sending me all the way home. That is not you
and that is not your responsibility of me. Those 'gentleman' tasks, I am capable of doing it on my own myself. I just need him to truly care for
me, love me for who I am on the inside and accepting my flaws. Listen to me and
my problems when no one would. Comfort me and show me a reason to move on with
life or stand back up on my feet when life starts giving me lemons. I want us
to make lemonades together. When we do fight, we settle it in a diplomatic way
where both party listen to each other and earnestly tries to compromise with
what each of us wants/ expect on each other. We don’t have to ask each other to
change to be someone we think as our ideal partner. But we make do with our
qualities and characteristics, and falling in love with our very own flaws. Basically
I don’t want a relationship where one has to overpower the other, making
him/her to feel suffocated or drowning, as that one common partner in the
relationship would always have to give in. Because in a relationship both party
needs to feel like they are growing not the later. I want a mature
relationship, whereby we care, we love, we support, and we help each other and
come to fully understand one another. A relationship whereby we are proud of
each other’ good qualities that we individually may lack, appreciating them
wholeheartedly despite some of the bad. Yes, I want a relationship like this.
I don't need a perfect boyfriend. Neither a close to perfect boyfriend who tries his very best to be outstanding. I just need a guy who is willing to be my friend. My closely intimate best friend who will always be there for me and love me for who I am. Someone who respects me and I could respect to. Someone who just be himself without the add on gimmick of a gentleman. I need a companion in life. Not a romantic love story in the movies or dramas. Why change yourself because of a relationship when in due time your old habits or true character will show up in time? Honesty is the best policy.
POSTED BY ♥th-SHARINAH{: ON Monday, December 9, 2013 @ 4:06 AM
